"To me, this is the most beautiful photo I have ever seen, but it took a long time for me to realize that." - Jennifer
I recently came across a post on a friends Facebook page that pulled at my ol' heartstrings. This friend, a past client and expectant mama, shared her feelings about the cesarean birth of her first babe. With her permission, I am sharing her words because I have had many "belly birth" moms share the same sentiment throughout my career. It breaks my heart to think that some moms feel lesser because of the way they birthed their baby.
Vaginal birth or belly birth, all of my moms are heroes in my eyes! Our paths to motherhood are not all the same, they are unique and we need to find the beauty in them, because all moms deserve that.
"I don't know if it's because this was our reality and it's all I know personally, or if it's because I know all of the women in these photos probably 'didn't imagine it this way' that these photos move me to tears.
I had an emergency c-section. It's not what I planned. It's not what I imagined, hoped for or what I even thought possible since I had an easy, low-risk pregnancy.
When I am asked about my birth I am usually met with a look of sadness, a look of "oh, I'm so sorry" as if it was the worst possible outcome. Like, I had somehow failed or got ripped off or that it must have been a less than perfect experience. When in reality, it really doesn't matter how she entered this world. It was a unique kind of beautiful in so many ways. Maybe because I have come out the other side and know that I wouldn't change a damn thing because my daughter is here, and that is really, truly... all. that. matters.
I'm not sure what would make me feel stronger and more powerful in the end - coming out of the scariest experience of my life or birthing in my home, the way I "envisioned it'.
But today, none of that matters. I just really wanted to share this for so many reasons, but mostly because birth is a birth is a birth and I am a warrior regardless - just like every other mother."