When meeting potential clients for the first time, we are often asked a great number of questions but there seems to be one question in particular that we are always asked by dads and partners. That question is, "How will I still be involved? Will you take my place?"
The simple answer is that we encourage dads and partners to be 100% involved and hands on (to their level of comfort of course) and we will most definitely not take your place! Instead, we are there to enhance your birth experience...to attend in addition to, not instead of you. We are there to provide both mom AND her partner with emotional and information support.
Moms and their partners have a strong bond that no doula can match. We understand that for a woman to progress and "open up" throughout labour, she must be at ease and relaxed, surrounded by those she trusts and feels safe with. It only makes sense that mom is staring in to the eyes, resting in the arms and listening to the encouraging words of her partner.
So let's take a look at a few ways that a doula would help out to ensure that mom's partner will be involved every step of the way:
You see, we are not just there to provide care for moms but rather for the family as a whole. In fact, it's often the dads or partners in the end that are most grateful for our presence at their birth. You have no idea how many times we've heard the phrase, "I don't know what I would have done without you."