When meeting with our clients for the first prenatal meeting, I always ask both mom and dad to give me 5 words that they feel describe the labour and birthing process. This exercise allows me to meet expectant parents where they're at and it serves as a guide as to how I can help better normalize the birth process for them as well as alleviate any anxiety or fear they are holding on to. A few months back, a dad-to-be listed off the following descriptive words - screaming, pain, anger, emotional woman and blood. Clearly this was a dad that was very worried and concerned about both his wife and the birthing process.
Throughout the remainder of our prenatal meeting, I made it my goal to ease his mindset by sharing stories of normal, physiological birth and by providing them with reading materials that normalize birth such as Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. Following our meeting, I emailed links to videos of peaceful birth videos as well as a link to my Dads and Doulas blog post. It was my hope that by the time the big day rolled around that he would be feeling much at ease with the process and confident in supporting his woman.
Throughout the birth process, doulas provide peace of mind to our clients by walking them through each stage of labour and offering guidance, reassurance and practical solutions in the moment. Turns out for them, they managed beautifully and had the vaginal, hospital birth that they wanted.
Following the birth, I asked dad to provide me with the 5 words that he would now use to describe labour and birth. Here were his words - rewarding, togetherness, powerful, natural and long. Nothing at all what he had pictured in the beginning.
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